Let's Talk About Sex Baby
(Christian Singles Edition)
Let's talk about sex babeeee. Let's talk about you and me, let's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be. I grew up listening to this song by Salt-N-Pepa. So yeah, let's talk about it.
We will start by me telling you about a first date I went on last night. I got bitten by the Valentine's bug for the first time this year and got a itch to try match.com. all because of Valentine's day. I was very impulsive and I was over it 2 days before Valentine's day and then got stuck with a membership I was no longer interested. I was hesitant but I decided to agree to go on a date.
I was getting some small red flags from this guy and my friend called him "thirsty" because he was already calling me several times a day before the date even happened. Two nights ago I watched a movie called,"You before me", recommended by my best friend. I was really good, and I thought the moral of the movie was to live to your fullest. So Friday night I was just going to have another boring night by myself. Mind you, I love boring nights by myself! I am an introvert and usually live for those kind of nights but I think the movie moved me to take more chances in my life and I spontaneously texted the guy from match. He wanted to know if we could meet for lunch tomorrow. I said I couldn't but I could meet tonight. Who texted those words to him, was it really me? Were those really my finger's texting that message? Oh well, the message was sent.
He agreed to meet me at Potowotomi. I hate meeting anyone spontaneously!! That's not who I am and even if I have a planned meeting it's hard for me to be right on time because I am usually on "Latina time". Yet here I am meeting this stranger on a whim with barely 5 min of prep time to get ready? Who am I?? Should I keep my polka dot work shirt on? No, too work appropriate. I found a interesting tunic I bought from the thrift store. It a off the shoulder shirt with flared out sleeves. Very cute, but where would I ever wear a shirt like this? For this very moment!
So I leave to go to Potowotomi. With a little bit of guilt mixed with fear and excitement at the same time. Is this really the right place for a Christian to go on a first date? Excitement because I never really do anything exciting. I went Potowotomi Casino a couple times in my life right after it opened here in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I have not been there in 8 years or so. It looked quite different then what I remember. More restaurants, hotels, and a lot more people then what I remembered.
I was not that nervous about meeting this person because I was all in the weird spontaneous vibe tonight. I just wanted to have a little fun and excitement. I think this all might be symptoms of surviving the Polar Vortex that just hit Wisconsin. It drives you to do crazy things. Or maybe I am having a one day mid-life crisis? I can see this man from a distance. He really looked exactly like his picture. Which is good, because I find him attractive. It's crowded where he is and I tap him on the back. He seems very delighted to meet me.
I will spare you of every detail of the date that night but this date kind of inspired me to write about this topic. We saw a couple bands there, it was very fun and entertaining! I was very impressed with one of the bands. Almost instantly this guy wanted to hold my hand and I let him since I was having my one day mid crisis/polar vortex madness. That was fine but then when he wanted to give me a smooch after 10 minutes of knowing each other, I told him I don't kiss on the first date. He kept making jokes about not kissing me the whole date. He said he was going to respect that but he was overly affectionate with hugs and trying to play with my hair, all while we are listening to these bands. I had a good time, I was being showered with verbal affirmations the whole night. Maybe this guy was just "thirsty" but I was taking in all the compliments for the night.
He was attractive and fun but when we had a chance just to "talk" it was so shallow and that's one thing introvert's hate. I couldn't connect with him on a intellectual level or a spiritual level. He said he was a Christian and just went to church last Sunday. I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything. It's doesn't mean he is Saved Believer. He bragged about how many properties he owned and how much money he makes. There just was a disconnect when it came to having a conversation.
We finally got a better chance to talk where the music was not loud and that is where he said he would probably never marry again unless there was a prenup because he has too many properties, pensions and stocks but he joked that he would shack up with me tomorrow in the new house that he just purchased. That's what made me want to vomit in my mouth when he said that. I am thinking, "Excuse me mister, I am the daughter of a King!" "I am a woman of Value". I don't "shack" up Bro. I told him that I was a Born Again Christian and I don't get down like that before marriage. The night ended pretty fast after that comment.
As I was driving home the song came on by Sean Paul, and these lyrics repeated, You are Worth more then Rubies, more then diamonds. I felt that God was reaffirming that I am valued. I am worth more then that.
There was a time that I was ashamed up being Born again Virgin. Now I feel quite the opposite and I feel angry if someone wants to threaten that. I feel insulted if someone desires to Cheapen my virtue. I feel the opposite of shame!! The shame now comes when someone doesn't want to respect me. Not really though because its like, "Next!".
Which made me think of the Bachelor show. The new Bachelor is a Virgin and he is handsome and so far as making being a Virgin acceptable with no shame. I don't get it really because the world wants to make virgins look like losers. That seems like the message they have been trying to portray to me in the movies ever since I was a kid. There are movies like the 40 year old virgin etc... So it makes me wonder why on the Bachelor they are not shaming it or maybe at the end of the show it will be? I don't know but I am no longer giving in to the lie that world brings that, saving yourself is for losers. It's just the opposite for me now.
God says, you are Beautiful,Unique and Incredible and that you are worthy to be Loved. Love is patient. It doesn't rush and push you into something. It is selfless and does not ask for a prenup. God says, you are Beautiful,Unique and Incredible and that you are worthy to be Loved. We don't walk the walk of shame but we walk the path of light. Always wear your invisible crown and never forget who you are. Daughters of the King. Royalty........ You are worth more then Diamonds, more than Rubies.
Keeping Shining! Never Forget who you are and always wear your Crown.
