The Ghetto State of Mind

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                     The Ghetto State of Mind  The Ghetto state of mind is an intriguing concept. In my hometown this mind set is on an upscale. It has always been there but in the last 5 years its grown rampantly like wildfire. The ghetto state of mind comes in all colors and nationalities. You can identify it by how someone carries themselves and by their words and actions and how they treat others.   Let us explore this unaesthetic mind set.  This mind set is at one of the lowest mindsets. In this mindset the person always has to be right, always gets their way. Putting their needs first is always on their agenda. Some examples are screaming and honking at an elderly to cross the street as opposed to a more noble mindset of going out of your way to help an elderly person cross the street. This mindset is also displayed by not letting people merge on the highway knowing that now they will now have to exit. In some states not merging is against the law but it is just human decency tha

Just say No!! Having Boundaries...Ferris Moments

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 I just had my 42nd birthday last week. I had a fabulous time celebrating it! I feel more confident and more wise then any other time in my life. Forties is a time to blossom in your life! One thing that I have learned over the years and I am consistently still working on is the art of just saying no! I am a nurturing type individual that doesn't like conflict. If someone ever invited me to something or asked me to do something I always said yes if I was available. I felt obligated and that is was the "Christian thing to do." I have gotten to a point in my life where I don't need to go to parties and events that I know I will not enjoy just for the sole purpose of being a people pleaser. Forties seems to be a time where people are really stretched out thin with caring for children, possibly,grandchildren and caring for aging adults etc... Makes my head spin with all the activities demanded of me! If you don't  have boundaries during this stage in your life you can get burned out! Having good boundaries in your life can dip into every part of your life, your job, your friendships, invitations it goes on and on.

           It has been a process of several years of working on having healthy boundaries and I am still working on it! Some books that really helped me out is "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and "Your Best Yes" by Lysa TerKeurst I recommend reading these books if you would like to work on setting healthy boundaries in your life. This has been life changing for me. It has brought me a new sense of confidence, peace, and freedom! It has brought more focus and living life to the fullest. The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance John 10:10. When you start saying NO to people and things that don't bring any meaning in your life you will start saying YES to people and places that are meaningful and rewarding and opening up new doors and joy in your life. It's time to start having a superfluous life! Gurl...... Do me a favor and just say No!!!!


Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.  Ferris Bueller


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