The Ghetto State of Mind

                     The Ghetto State of Mind  The Ghetto state of mind is an intriguing concept. In my hometown this mind set is on an upscale. It has always been there but in the last 5 years its grown rampantly like wildfire. The ghetto state of mind comes in all colors and nationalities. You can identify it by how someone carries themselves and by their words and actions and how they treat others.   Let us explore this unaesthetic mind set.  This mind set is at one of the lowest mindsets. In this mindset the person always has to be right, always gets their way. Putting their needs first is always on their agenda. Some examples are screaming and honking at an elderly to cross the street as opposed to a more noble mindset of going out of your way to help an elderly person cross the street. This mindset is also displayed by not letting people merge on the highway knowing that now they will now have to exit. In some states not merging is against the law but it is just human decency tha

Leggings Leggings Leggings!!!

Leggings Leggings Leggings!!!

       Where do I start? Leggings and Skinny Jeans started coming about around 10 years ago I think. I was in my early 30's and it seemed it was very trendy with the teens and college aged. I'm not for one to jump on the any trend wagon that comes around and I tried on maybe one Skinny Jeans back then and said "No Way". Not with my Pear Shaped,booty shakn body!  It's just not going to work! No problemo. Lots of people were still wearing other types of pants. One of my best friend's had the same body type as me and wore some body hugging boot cut jeans and always looked sexy. So that was my go to jeans for forever!

         Ok maybe not forever! Year after year more people starting wearing them. Some how it didn't really bother me that much, I was very content in my boot leg world.  I am not super fashionable but like to look nice and somewhat like from this century. I think I had a quick moments thought  about 5 years ago as if when is this trend going to end? It's got to be out some time soon, right? It's been 10 years and I'm still waiting for it to go away. Its getting stronger and stronger!!! I vowed I am never going to wear those Leggings! It's just hard living in a Skinny Jean World when your Pear shaped. Obviously whoever started this trend was shaped like a boy. This Fashion trend can look good on skinny women or boy shaped women or even very Chubby Lady's that have an apple sized body. You usually wear a really big loose shirt on top and then the tight leggings on the bottom. It benefits Apple shaped bodies by disguising their big tummies and showing off their slim legs. How nice..........

          Well my Leggings awakening happened recently. It may have started when my best friend said that most of the women she saw going on dates seemed to be wearing leggings. I didn't think much of the statement at the time. It really started when I started a new job recently and the average age of most of the people I work with are in their  mid 20's. Leggings is a staple wardrobe there. It still really didn't faze me. I went out with my friend to eat and she wore a dress with leggings and I thought that doesn't look bad on her and she has a pear shaped body too. A couple weeks later at work a lady older and bigger then me was "pulling of leggings". She happened to sit next to me during our lunch break and and I said I liked her outfit but I would never to be able to wear leggings with my body type. She said All I have to do is wear a long top to cover my bum and asked me if I ever shopped at Ross before. She said that is where she bought her top.

           I never cared about something as meaningless as leggings before. So this was really interesting. It may have something to do with me starting to begin my middle aged journey and I have become more self conscious about the way I look lately. I don't follow a lot of trends and my favorite store is the Goodwill. lol.  I pride myself on my goodwill outfits. I've been wearing the same style for a little under a decade and I was wondering if I needed a little update to keep looking young and current. I started paying more attention to what women were wearing for pants everywhere I went. At the mall, movies, walking down the street etc.  It seemed as everyone I saw was wearing leggings or Skinny Jeans. Every once in awhile I would see someone wearing bootcut jeans and then I would try to get a closer look at their face to see how old they were. Everybody wearing bootleg jeans was over 40! How did this happen to me? How did I let this slip by me? My bootleg jeans have officially became the  "New Mom Jeans!"        Noooooooooo........    I must have morphed into a middle aged mom complete with the correct outfit.

         This can't be I thought!  I quickly have to go to Ross!! Since Ross was kind of far and the stores were going to be closing soon.I decided to go TJMaxx instead. I went to where all the tops were. Almost all of them very long and appropriate for leggings. Where have I been? I don't have any long shirts. I've been shopping all the time at the Goodwill were they don' t sell all of their tops in a long length.Iv'e been living in my own Goodwill World. I get a stack of loose long shirts and put them in my cart. One of these has to work right? Now I need a pair of leggings! I look around the store for leggings and don't see any. How can this be? The whole world is wearing leggings and they don't sell leggings here? I see women shopping around wearing there leggings.Well, where did they all get theirs? I feel  like an idiot at this point. The only thing that looks similar to leggings were in the athletic department but they looked like yoga pants or workout pants. They kind of look like leggings. What if I bought one and wear it and and people laugh at me and say those are not leggings those are yoga pants. I'm embarrassed but I ask a store clerk if they sell leggings. She said they did but they are mostly out of stock now because the seasons are changing. She then said there are a few of them in juniors area. I see like 5 left. small, small, small, Guess I wont be getting them, Finally hidden, one large.

         So I go back to the fitting room with a bunch of clothes and try them on. Most of them just didn't look right on me. I found 2 tops that looked ok. I decided to buy them and see what my mom thinks. I was going to a Women's conference the next day and this would be a great opportunity to try out my new leggings outfit. I drove to my moms house and tried on the 2 outfits I bought.She said I could pull one off but not to sure about the other one, This was a good sign, So I am excited to wear my new outfit to the conference the next day. I was wearing the long top to cover my bum. Maybe this can work I thought. I got to conference and was excited for the day. There were a few young ladies up there talking, being an opener to the conference. Guess what their opener topic of interest was? Leggings! This is at a Faith based Conference but leggings will pop its head out anywhere at this point! They decided to have a leggings contest to see who had the best best leggings to win a door prize. Yes I am officially in the twiilite Zone. I thought this would be a perfect opportunity to check out all the women's clothes. Women of all ages and sizes were all donning either skinny jeans or leggings.I had a wonderful time at the conference. I got some pics of me and my friends. When I saw the pictures I immediately became a little downcast. I looked like a house in the pics!! I am not a skinny chic but I dont usually look that big in my pictures! Why am I doing this to myself? One pic look ok with a little cropping and I posted it on facebook. One of the first comments was.... Oh my!!!!!    Oh my?? What does that mean? That I look like a huge blob? Later I noticed they put a heart too so maybe its not a negative comment.  When it came down to it. The outfit was a "Fail". I have the picture posted above.

           I may give Legging a few more chances.  I need to be creative and think of some ideas that it can work and be flattering.  I still believe when your clothing fits right and your body comes to light it's better then being trendy or stylish.  When your clothes flatter your body and your body comes to light that's fashion in it's own way. I still may give the Leggings thing a try but until then I will still be rocking these boot cut jeans!

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